I don't have any specific relays to recommend.
I have done some testing with one relay from ESMI
http://www.esmi.fi/suomi/middle/Tuottee ... 1157FI.pdf
but I don't know fi they are geenrally a good investments and available where you are.
ESMI lists as avaialble coil voltages being (12), 24, 230 VAC and 12, 24 VDC.
Using latchign relay that changes state with pulse is a working idea when you want control with home automation and momentary push button. It will work quite easily.
When doign serious automation one thing with this kind of on/off with pulses type relays: those relays are not generally 100% reliable that every pulse changes the relay state. ESMI lists on their documentation the reliabilty being only 99% (based on experience the reliabity of this kind of systems goes down when relays get old over years). The potential 1% fail rate on momentary push button control when human uses the button should not be a problem, when the user gets feedback that light did not change state as expected will just press button again and things are right.
If the controlling is done with home automation system that does not have any feedback fro relay state, quite strange things can happen when the relay misses one control pulse...
In automation systems where absolute reliabity is needed, typically two coil latching relays and feeback are used. Those two coil latchign relays turn on when pulse gets to first coil, and turn of with pulse to second coil.